A Crisis Of Confidence. How To Move Through It
“a crisis of confidence” is something that may hit you at any time without warning, or just creep up on you unnoticed. Either way it can have a whole array of consequences for you, large or small.
The key for you is being able to identify what is happening to you on one hand and then refusing to let it increase in it’s severity on the other hand. Understand that a “crisis in confidence” is real, threatening and will ace your future unless taken seriously and dealt with swiftly.
Remember each “crisis of confidence” will be unique to the individual and the effects will vary, some effects may be mild and other effects devastating or crippling.
Being Able To Identify A Crisis Of Confidence
Because this insidious and nasty set of thoughts and feelings stalk you slowly, quietly and relentlessly, you have to be totally aware and observe what is happening to you. At first it may be very difficult to identify why you feel as you do and what the problem actually is.
When it happened to me I didn’t zero in on what it specifically was for years. My “crisis of confidence” crept up so stealthily, it just just didn’t arrive at one particular moment in time and now looking back, I can see that it had been gradually building up for years.
I had always been a very confident person and that is why it took me so long to understand and identify what was going wrong. This “crisis of confidence” was eating away at me and I didn’t even know for maybe 5 years. So just realising what it was, for me was absolutely massive. It can be overwhelming at times, but identification is crucial and may be an unbelievably hard thing to do.
Also it didn’t affect every area of my life and in the end I managed to break it down to find the route cause, which I believe was rejection. Now I am not afraid to talk about it, but I won’t waste your valuable time going into it, but it centred around my being adopted. I managed to deal with this on my own, but I would suggest getting help from an understanding friend or professional, just so that you can find out what the problem actually is. This is a major key to overcoming the “crisis of confidence”
Overcoming The Crisis Of Confidence
The big key component for me was the identification of the “crisis of confidence” first, as I mentioned previously. There I was rough tough former cop, breaking down in tears very easily, multiple times. When I was working nothing ever fazed me and I was afraid of no-one or situation, but this didn’t help me, in fact it probably was more of a hurdle because of my past.
A crisis of confidence can be good for the soul occasionally, because it can make you think and then act positively.
The amazing thing was though, that nobody knew but me. However the next vital thing was not to remain in the hole. So I stopped digging first and then worked out the best way forward for me. I am not a professional, so I can only talk about what I did.
The first thing you have to know is that I am still working on the challenge today. It all started happening around 2004, manifested itself finally in 2009 and I have been gradually eliminating the obstacle ever since. I have to say it has been interesting and I have learnt a lot about myself along the journey.
Oh by the way I am 97% the way there and I now I understand the problem, I will never allow that in my life again. You can do the same, as long as you are dedicated to your life and well being.
Overcoming this horrible part of my life has been a very humbling experience for me, but I have come back stronger than ever. Now it will be a challenge for you to identify what is wrong first, with or without help and I strongly suggest with help, as it will shorten the time span to recovery.
Read tomorrow’s article to find out how I started to overcome the adversity of my “crisis of confidence”
To Your Success
A crisis in confidence.