How Do You Develop The Confidence Habit?
So ask yourself the question. “Are people born with natural confidence?”
In my experience I would have to say generally no.
Well let’s take one specific subject, public speaking. I remember when I was 11 years old I volunteered to give the school soccer report in assembly every Monday morning.
I was frightened but felt that I had to do it for some reason. I still don’t know why, because it was actually a trauma for me. I was scared but still kept doing it. I suppose my love for soccer basically took over and I wanted to tell people how well we had played. Maybe, because I was the star striker, I wanted to tell people when I scored a goal.
On a funny note I remember having to stop giving my report one day because I couldn’t read my own writing and I had to ask a teacher what INITIATIVE meant.
Later on I repeated the pattern in my first MLM business in 1979. Yes it was Amway, which I have to say I absolutely loved but never really made any money at. I remember standing in front of 250 people at a rally and saying something.
Everyone clapped and it could have been that I did a good job or it meant they were clapping because I had left the podium.
This continued in the police (33 years) where I would give evidence in courtrooms on hundreds of occasions.
Anyway I worked out why I continued to put myself in the firing line. It was to get good at what I enjoyed doing and that was speaking to people.
So what are they keys to help you develop the confidence habit?
1. Courage – Just to have the guts to get up there and do the thing.
2. Persistence – To keep going even when I thought I wasn’t very good.
3. Consistency – Taking a few daily actions on many occasions contributed to my concsistency
4. Attitude – I adopted the attitude that I would be a good speaker (OMG it took years)
5. Practise – What I practised I became.
6. Knowledge – I studied a tremendous amount and knew my subject.
7. Accuracy – I was extremely accurate with the content.
8. Brevity – I had something to say. I would say it and sit down.
9. Speed – I spoke reasonably fast and I can honestly say I wasn’t boring.
10. Entertained – I always tried to entertain people and tell them true stories
11. Authentic – I was always authentic and told it how it was.
12. Imagination – I always imagined that I was confident when I spoke in front of people. Here are a couple of great quotes :-
A jug fills drop by drop.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is not an act, but a habit.
Both these quotes were taken from a favourite book of mine INSTANT CONFIDENCE by Paul McKenna, which comes with a great CD. I can thoroughly recommend this book if you are serious about developing the confidence habit.
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